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Reviews of books about miscarriage and grieving over an empty crib.
Greetings,
If you are here, it is likely you or
somebody close to you has suffered a miscarriage. This is a difficult subject
to approach. Jodi and I experienced this personally in May of 2003, so I just wanted to say I know how it hurts.
She was about 18 weeks along. The pain never really disappears, but it does get better.
We had a healthy baby girl in November 2004... try try again!
Words do little to heal the pain, but the books I listed below do seem
to help... God Bless!
A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss
For anyone who has had the sadness to suffer the loss of a child, A SILENT
SORROW is THE definitive book to own. It is not only written for the Mother
and Father, but grandparents, siblings, friends and health care professionals.
It's section on dealing with your loss, understanding the devastation of the
grief and coping with it were instrumental in helping me deal with the loss of
my daughter, who was stillborn at nine months. I read it, and reread it -
sometimes daily - because it provided the comfort and support I needed. It
also provides practical advice on creating services, coping with others,
thinking about second pregnancies and anniversary reactions. I cannot say
enough good things about this book, and would recommend it to anyone looking
for a sensitive and practical insight on the sad, and often little known
subject of pregnancy loss.
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart:
Deborah Davis did something for me that
I needed...she validated my feelings about the entire ordeal my husband and I
have gone through. We made the agonizing decision to induce labor to end the
pregnancy after our baby was diagnosed with a terminal birth defect. I have
been feeling guilt, anger, jealousy, despair, and fear about the future.
Deborah Davis touches on all these issues in this book. Interjected throughout
are personal testimonies from other parents who have gone through a loss, so
it helps to know others have experienced the same feelings. The author also
validates the fact that a loss is a loss, no matter if the baby died before
birth or after. This is SO important for the reader to be told, I know it was
for me.
A Rose in Heaven
After having suffered 2 miscarriages
myself several years ago, I was pleasantly surprised how "A Rose in Heaven"
ministered to me, even after I had already worked through the grief process
and healing on my own. This book is very uplifting and encouraging, while
providing hope and healing as the author walks you through her pain and grief
due to the loss of her baby. It is recommended reading for anyone who has
suffered their own loss or knows someone who has. It is an excellent tool to
be used to counsel someone who has lost a baby in any stage of pregnancy and
beyond. What a loving gift for someone who has suffered a loss when you don't
have the words to help them heal. Daily readings gently lead them through
their grief and give them hope. Thank you, Dawn Siegrist Waltman for sharing
your heart with your readers!
Trying Again:
This book did not make me feel like I was
overreacting because I "only" had a miscarriage, something that I wish my
doctor and her staff hadn't done. Instead, it addressed all of my concerns,
like what is the chance this will happen again. And the beautiful thing about
the book is it provides ALL of the necessary tips for conceiving even while
I'm am still busy healing. So, I feel like I have something positive to set my
sites on when it is time. I started reading this book absolutely hopeless and
have ended it feeling blessed that I had the little bit of time that I had
being pregnant, without any of the guilty feelings. I realized I had done
everything I could have to prevent this from happening. Honestly, I would
recommend this book to anyone trying to conceive, not just people who have
lost a child. I wish I had this information when I was going into this
pregnancy. This book is 100% grounded in fact, which was very reassuring.
Absolutely priceless to my husband and I.
Sherokee Isle wrote this wonderful book that touches on all that I went through. I have recommended it to many friends with similar experiences and it has helped them cope with the loss of their little Angels too. I even wrote to her (her address is in the back of the book) to thank her for helping me, and she sent a hand written personal note back to me telling me how sorry she was for my loss. There are many things she suggests doing to help you through this hard time. She validates your feelings and discusses her personal stories. She is a voice of experience.
I caught Dr Berman's appearance on the Today show just 4 days after our daughter was born stillborn 4 weeks ago. I gave birth at Yale New Haven Hospital (where Dr Berman practices) so I dont know if it was coincidental that I saw this just as we too were experiencing this great loss. To make a long story short, this book has helped me tremendously!! I read thru it in 2 days and cried at every single page. I found it very helpful that my husband and I are not the only ones going thru this sort of pain. The book is full of poems and stories from people who have been thru similar experiences. This book and Dr Bermans website ...has really opened my eyes and heart to other women who have experienced this. I have been given other books on this subject by friends and family over the past month.. and this one is by far superior! I now have a great support group of other people who have had a stillborn child in their 3rd trimester.
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